does any one else have an intrusive thought and you go over it in your head and try to see if you react in a good or bad way? i’ve been having bad intrusive thoughts but i sometimes have this feeling inside that i like it? and i feel it’s right and i agree inside but my other thoughts are saying no i hate it ?!
Whenever you feel like you have to search a thought its intrusive and merits no feelings. I get ocd questions that im always searching for an answer to but there is no answer. I would do that a lot with my pocd
@bekind94 that’s helped a lot, thankyou!
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@bekind94 Can I ask what you mean about search a thought? How do you tell the difference between an intrusive thought vs a wanted one vs a thought you actually do like but can’t accept?
@gp @gp I feel intrusive thoughts are not controllable they come out of nowhere and you begin to panic and think idk so you search for an answer but no answer is sufficient . If that makes sense. Like a tug of war is it true is it not. It causes doubt Wanted thoughts to me dont cause panic. You control it and respond naturally The last one is hard tbh. Im not sure how to answer that one ☹️ but it sounds like you know how you feel it about. You made a sound decision yes i like it but im not ok with liking it. Ocd would have you going back n forth omg do i like it or not. Im not an expert but that’s just my view on it.
@bekind94 Thanks! That makes sense. It’s so hard. I really do go back and fourth (straight vs gay). I’ve never had a natural positive thought about being with a guy. But my mind is so convinced or believable. It almost feels inevitable? I think it’s been this way for so many years now, I just don’t know what I am anymore. If I take a step back from the emotional side. I grew up with never second guessing or doubting my attraction to women. It was just there, and I loved liking it. Then one day, a thought about not feeling enough for my then gf, complete loss of libido/attraction, the question of “am I gay” pops in. And I’ve never been able to figure it out. Instead, just a constant doubt that I’m straight. Just my mind non-stop in anxiety mode and constantly fighting against the thoughts/feelings that they are true and real.
@gp That was me when i was going through pocd. I had to convince myself i was attracted to men & not children
@bekind94 SOOCD and POCD seem to have a lot of things in common. Almost like the brain convinces the person they are something they don’t want to be. But the brain does it so much it feels like we want it?
@gp Possibly! Like i knew I didn’t want to have sex with kids but I felt so scared like omg do I like these thoughts
Not sure if this helps, but I've heard that our initial/intrusive thoughts are what our brains have been trained to say (just repetition), and the thoughts we say afterward are the ones we truly believe (because it takes a second to think).
@Peabody that was really helpful thankyou !
This one time I got an intrusive feeling that I liked the thoughts and I didn’t. I’m scared of getting that feeling again and I worry about what if I did again. I hate the thoughts and I definitely don’t like them but these intrusive feelings suck and is one of the hardest things to get over :/
It sucks, and it’s hard to understand that these thoughts aren’t mine cause why does it feel like I’m getting excited by them as well? When that should be the last thing that should be happening. It only convinces me more and I just sit there after feeling it like “what am I supposed to/can do about this?” And I just feel distraught cause if it’s not what I want, why am I feeling something like that towards it? When I should be feeling something more negative?
How do get rid of intrusive thoughts?? And how do you know that they’re intrusive thoughts if you started thinking of them? Or if you feel like you’re the one who’s thinking of them rather than them just popping in your mind? Like if you’re looking for it, like you’re looking for trouble… Anyone else feel like this too?
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