Rocd vs reality

How do people recognize the difference between relationship ocd intrusive thoughts and real thoughts about your relationship? I have been in a relationship for about a year, it’s my first long-term relationship and the healthiest, I am almost 20 years old, and I believe I have rocd (I haven’t been diagnosed but it’s pretty clear to me). The main thoughts I get are “what if I’ll lose feelings for my bf?, what if I don’t love him?, what if I’m gonna break his heart?” (it’s never about if he’s cheating on me or anything like that. He is a really great boyfriend and the best person to ever walk into my life, he isn’t toxic or bad in any way towards me or the relationship). Usually these thoughts occur before my period (luteal phase/pms) but I’m on day 6 of my period and I got these thoughts, which usually isn’t the case as I’ve said before. So I went into a spiral cus I believed that since I got these thoughts at a different time in my cycle, they must be true. Deep down I know I love my boyfriend so much, it’s just so hard to navigate whether or not these thoughts are just fake rocd thoughts or what I’m really thinking. Can anyone else relate?

Username: ctmontctmont

Date posted: 47w ago

Once you start trying not to think of something, the more your ocd will latch onto it and the more it’ll show up regardless of where you are in your cycle. Sit with the uncertainty no matter how distressing it is.

Username: ofcourseOliviaofcourseOlivia

Date posted: 47w ago

hey, i can really feel how distressing these thoughts are for you, especially since they're hitting outside of the usual times you expect them. it's rough when your brain throws curveballs at you, making you question what's real and what's the ocd talking. it's incredibly hard, but hold onto that knowledge that beneath it all, you know the love you have for your bf is genuine. 💔 by the way, have you heard about this new ai-powered ocd therapy tool called 'unstuck'? i've been through that maze of doubts myself, and what helped me was this free ai ocd therapy tool called "unstuck" (unstuckmyocd.com/try) that my nocd therapist recommended. i think it'll be especially helpful for you because it's like having an ocd therapist in your pocket, providing personalized, step-by-step support when those unexpected thoughts try to take over. it's designed to help you navigate these moments without giving into reassurance seeking. i hate when people promote stuff, but i really think it can help you because it's changed my life. lmk if you have qs or just want to talk more! <3

Username: anonymous1963anonymous1963

Date posted: 47w ago

We’ve also talked about marriage and living together in the future and that has triggered thoughts sometimes like “what if living together would be horrible? What if we live together and I don’t love him anymore? What if this doesn’t work out? What if we’re moving too fast?, etc”. I get worried that maybe we talked about these things way too soon, even though we’ve talked about this stuff for as long as we can remember, but I think I am so influenced by social media and people’s opinions on what is too soon for a relationship too.

Username: landhouse

Date posted: 5y ago

how long should my obsessive thoughts last about my boyfriend if i have rocd ? usually i have a bad period where i think i have lost feelings for him and then it comes back but i’ve been feeling anxious and having these constant thoughts for days now. i’m trying not to do my compulsions but even when i do i don’t get the feeling of loving him back i just don’t get the constant thoughts and anxiety. is this rocd or do i actually just not like my boyfriend ? i’m not formally diagnosed with rocd but i have done so much research and my habits and thoughts sound exactly like examples of those suffering from rocd. i thought that i had it and now i’m scared i don’t and i just don’t love him. but then i also know that that’s another symptom of rocd that the ocd convinces you that you don’t actually have rocd and you just don’t have feelings for them so now i’m scared and confused. can anyone tell me if they think that i have rocd please

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Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

Anyone relate (ROCD)

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he is an absolute angel. All throughout the relationship I would have nightmares and intrusive thoughts “what if he leaves/cheats”. And he would reassure me and treat me like the world revolves around me. Lately I’m realizing this was actually ocd and not anxiety as I had previously thought. I would get paranoid if he didn’t check his messages for a couple hours, I’d get anxious if I saw an ambulance heading toward his street while I was driving, I would ask for reassurance that he loved me constantly. Bear in mind, I have no reason to have these fears. My boyfriend is my best friend and has supported me through thick and thin and he’s amazing. One time a couple months ago I was being a bit snappy with him one night and I had the thought “only people who don’t like their partners are snappy with them” and it just stuck. Now I struggle with intrusive thoughts about my own feelings, do I love him, do I miss him enough, is my relationship going to end because this couple on social media broke up. I could deal with the thoughts about his feelings because he is so so good about making me feel loved but now I’m stuck in this constant guilt loop where I question my relationship for no reason then get anxious and feel guilty for even thinking that way because I think I’m manifesting it. Was wondering if anybody else in a healthy long term relationship has had this happen to them and how you talk yourself down :(

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Username: madelynt1129

Date posted: 34w ago

Struggling with ROCD

Hello! I am in a fairly new relationship (5 months) and I’m starting to struggle with Relationship OCD (I think?) I have begun to constantly question my feelings for this person (ex. do I love them enough, are they good enough, do I even like them) even though we have never had any major problems and I genuinely enjoy spending time with them. However, these thoughts have become so encompassing that I no longer feel able to connect to my real feelings for this person, which then makes the thoughts stronger. I will be discussing this with my therapist tomorrow but wanted to see if anyone here has had a similar experience. Thanks in advance!

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