i find myself constantly thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend. even if nothing is ‘wrong’ and i do think i love her, but this constant thought is just so confusing i can’t tell what’s real or not. how do i know if this is an ocd thing or if i should really be paying attention to this little voice in my head?
If when you get this thoughts you feel guilty, sad or depressed and any “bad” emotion, that’s OCD cause if you really wanted to break up with your girl you wouldn’t rethink about it. I went through this stage when relationship ocd started. Let’s be real, when you think you want I break with someone you actually don’t want to be with you would have done it already. Also, you can search if you have any commitment issues,too. It may be your first healthy relationship and because you don’t get any toxic feeling and everything is ok, it can be kinda normal to have thoughts like that.
@Meow 2068 I love your response !!! This made me anxiety go down just reading this and my partner is on their way and I’ve been anxious all day !!
@Meow 2068 it always consumes me with guilt, so this really hit home and i’m relieved, which is probably another sign that it’s just relationship ocd. thank you so much
@Jtamayo_1 I’m so happy to hear that!!! I’m also dealing with ROCD for 9 months now and I’m trying to see things clear. I responded to the person that wanted help, but I’m also responding so I can think like that me too
@Meow 2068 Too*
I have these thoughts too even though I have a healthy relationship. I think it comes from past toxic relationships and self sabatoging something that is unknown to me. Hoping my experience helps. You’re not alone
@Jtamayo_1 yes this is also something i should keep in mind, especially bc i’ve been “missing” my ex who i constantly had really drastic highs and lows with. thank you so much
@Ltrecovery I was thinking about my ex too this days,he couldn’t even treat me like my current long term boyfriend. For some reason us humans “don’t appreciate” something we have right now but we will appreciate when we won’t have it anymore, so that’s why I’m trying my best to not let ROCD make me do something that I’m going regret my whole life. We are more powerful than our thoughts! We all going to get through it, we just need time to explore our self’s through our relationship. Real love ain’t always fireworks and flowers and all this beautiful things, real love is going to be tough in the beginning but we are going to be thankful for waiting all this tough stages to go and we are going to enjoy our relationship for the rest of our lifes.of course toxic love ain’t real love. It’s worth to wait to get through the tough stage with a person when you know he/she is not toxic.
i have rocd and am in a long term relationship. i have a hard time differentiating between obsessive/intrusive thoughts about my relationship comingfrom OCD and actual gut feelings. for 2 years I’ve thought that i need to break up with my partner but i usually dismiss it because i think its rocd. now im worried that it actually means i should break up but i know that after i do i’ll be obsessing whether it was the right decision … does that make sense? don’t know how to separate rocd from “real” feelings
I cannot tell if this is ocd or if I've realized that this relationship isn't right for me and won't last or I don't want to be in it anymore. I feel so confused or just sad and anxious. What if I'm not in love anymore
someone please reach out im really not doing okay and this is the closest i think ive come to making the decision that ny relationship needs to end but i cant do it. it's gotten so bad that even being around my boyfriend doesn't calm me down or make me feel better out these feelings, it just makes me feel like they're more real. im not confident that I'm just dealing with ocd at all. I'm so worried that my relationship is beyond repair and that I've fallen out of love because of resentment from problems we have. I don't know what love feels like how do I even know and yeah I know lo e isn't a feeling it's a choice but it's so hard to make choices let alone the correct ones when I'm doubting every aspect of our lives and relationship. I don't want to prolong the inevitable and make us both more miserable until we decide to finally end it but I don't want to end it if things can get better and I will feel normal again and in love. not guilty every time I say I love you because then I have the thought that I shouldn't say it because I don't know anymore. How do I talk to him about this. I bring it up but then I gloss it over with a reason that is more understandable and true but less painfu then "I don't know if im falling out of love or even what love feels like and I don't even know myself anymore so I don't know how I feel" and then we kinda comfort eachother until we get too sleepy to stay awake. I know OCD messes with your brain and can make feelings feel so real when they aren't and thoughts that aren't logical make the most sense. I know how it works but having OCD doesn't mean you can't experience the same things other people experience in relationships. So how do you know the difference.
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